A majority of sexual orientations are based on the theory that there are two opposite sexes or genders. This theory has started to be questioned.
People who are heterosexual, also known as “straight”, fall in love with people of the opposite sex or gender. This would, for example, means that a heterosexual woman is attracted to men. At the moment, most people consider themselves to be heterosexual and most societal and cultural norms as well as laws are based on the assumption that their population’s heterosexual.
People who are homosexual, on the other hand, fall in love with people of the same sex or gender as themselves. This would, for example, mean that a man’s attracted to other men. People who are homosexual are constantly made to “confess” their sexuality and “come out of the closet”, because they’re often assumed to be heterosexual. Because people are usually assumed to be heterosexual, people who are heterosexual don’t have to “come out of the closet”. But, many laws and cultural norms are starting to change and adapt to same sex relationships.
People who are bisexual can fall in love with people of the same sex or gender as themselves, as well as people of the opposite sex or gender. This means that their partner(s) can be either female or male.
People who are pansexual aren’t attracted to only two sexes or genders, like people who are bisexual, but by any (non-binary genders included) sex or gender. They’re often attracted to their partner(s)’s personality and person, rather than their sex or gender. So, the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality is that people who are pansexual fall in love their partners no matter their sex or gender.
People who are asexual don’t feel sexual attraction at all, or very seldom. Sexual orientation isn’t based on what one does but on how one feels. Therefore, someone who’s asexual can be asexual and still have sex. It’s up to oneself to define their sexuality. Asexuality’s still a relatively “invisible” sexual orientation and is often left out when discussing sex and sexuality.
Asexuality’s a broad term and includes many perspectives. To be asexual doesn’t necessarily mean that a person never wants to have sex, or never feels sexually aroused; some people do and others don’t. Some who are asexual masturbate and have sex once in awhile for many different reasons. It can, for example, be a way of dealing with stress, a way to get to know one’s body, or one may have sex or masturbate simply because it feels good. Someone who’s asexual can also have fantasies about having sex with somebody, but not actually want to have sex.
It’s important to be able to differentiate between romantic attraction and sexual attraction. The two can be linked together but don’t have to be. Therefore, people who are asexual can fall in love and feel the need of intimacy and tenderness without wanting to have sex.
When writing this text we’ve used asexuality.org as our source and we encourage you to check it out if you want to learn more about asexuality.